Who Sees You?
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Beyond the box you seem to live in, outside the lines of what you learned in school, at church and inside Disney movies and Hallmark cards… Who sees the you you really are?
Wait. Do you actually let your true self be seen? Vulnerably trusting that when you do, you will still be liked, loved and wanted? One of many heartbreaking truths in this world is our deficiency in intimacy (into-me-see). We don't really let ourselves be seen, and we don't really pause to fully see each other.
Who sees you living your Life turned-on, not just in the bedroom but in your everyday breaths? Who really sees you?
As a kid, I felt really seen by one person in my blood family. My uncle Chéo looked beyond the boundaries of what society said was acceptable, and saw his niece for who I really am. When I was a little girl, we went to the beach in Point Reyes and I admired his courage to not hide his gayness — not gay like I am, with Sesame Street’s Ernie & Bert and Mr. Rogers still being my besties at age 50, but — his homosexuality.
How brave, I thought. In a Christian society that tells us it’s wrong, he knows his truth and he is brave enough to live it. Uncle Chéo gave me an example of someone with enough self worth to live his truth. He never pushed anything on me. He was simply his authentic self, which is one of the bravest things a human can be.
Who sees you outside the picture frame you were persuaded to try and fit into?
Who sees and honors the real, authentic you, that burns aflame inside your limbs and lungs?
Who sees you, full and divine, not compartmentalized, willing to starve themselves by seeing only parts of you?
Whoever this is in your life, I give thanks for them today. I don’t need to know them personally to appreciate them. Their choice to live with integrity — wanting truth to reign in a world where deceit and hiding are all too common — feeds a world that is made of uniqueness, a world more enticingly alive and well than the world we are tolerating today.
May our eyes open wide, humanity.
When we clearly see who we are, by seeing through the eyes of Love (instead of fear), we will become blissfully blind to the old mediocre dream we have been dreaming.
Rivetingly real-life, rose colored glasses await.
This spring, you’re invited to join the Making Love to Fear (MLTF) community, in bringing about a world where pain and fear are transformed through the power of Love. If you live in or near Petaluma, CA, join us in person! Save-the-date for our first MLTF Community Dinner at Aqus Café, Tuesday April 8th from 5:30-7PM. RSVP required. For those in other geographies, we’ll soon launch our Substack community. Stay tuned!
Here’s a 2-minute hike share from last week, when I was impassioned about how good it feels to see through the eyes of Love.
I’ll close with a poem my uncle Chéo wrote when I was a kid. It was special then and it's even more special now.
