Chaos and conflict are part of the human experience. We don't get to decide whether they greet us or not. Yet we do get to decide how we respond when they show up.
If we want less suffering for ourselves and our fellow human beings, we choose to not add pain to pain. It is simply a choice, not necessarily easy at first but it does lead to freedom. Simple mathematics shows us that adding pain to pain — through blame, defensiveness and other expressions of fear — only creates a world with more pain in it.
If we want a world with more Love in it, we must respond to pain with Love.
Enter, Grace in the Face of Chaos. That’s what I call the way of being that this little piece of writing invites you to choose.
We are clearly seeing during this time on Earth that we need more people who can commit to embodying Grace in the Face of Chaos. People who are willing to courageously tell the truth without blame and us-and-them divisiveness. People who are willing to be open to another way. We need more people who know that Love is the answer, when they are present to fits of fear and accusation or the heart wrenching destruction of human life.
Perhaps you’re already a living example of this way.
Maybe you were in Florida during Hurricane Milton, helping your mother sort through her house of flooded belongings.
Your impact? A mother who felt deeply loved, supported and comforted during a time of shock and loss.
That’s the world I want to be part of. Thank you.
Maybe you were lividly screamed at by your ex boyfriend as he threw his cup of coffee at the wall, and instead of pummeling violent words back in return, you tuned in to another way.
Your impact? He could cool off more quickly, taking responsibility for his anger as he recognized you were not the cause of it.
That’s the world I want to be part of. Thank you.
Or maybe you have been to Gaza to provide humanitarian aid, tapping the deep reserves of divine Light within you even as you witnessed, up-close, horror paid for by your tax dollars.
Your impact? Showing people in the grip of genocide that there is still Love in the world.
That’s the world I want to be part of. Thank you.
Earlier in my entrepreneurial journey, I spent four years as a green wedding planner in the SF Bay Area. To make it a more fun and authentic professional journey, I blended-in relationship coaching to support my clients’ intense lead-up to their wedding day. Couples who had their emotional landscape supported were able to enjoy the event planning process more fully than those who did not.
That’s when these words came through me, like a whisper:
Grace in the Face of Chaos…
It was an inner message telling me that if I let stress take over my state of mind during a wedding ceremony or reception, the whole event would feel it.
Stay tethered to your inner calm, stay graceful, no matter the circumstances.
As with any choice for Love, the choice to embody Grace in the Face of Chaos alchemizes a world with less fear — and therefore less pain and suffering. When we choose this, all of Life smiles in gratitude, thanking us for our choice to honor the Love we are.
One of the things I do often, to support myself to be able to embody Grace when unpleasant situations occur, is to write what I call Undelivered Letters. It’s such a powerful yet simple act that I regularly use it to support coaching clients and Making Love to Fear Masterclass participants.
An Undelivered Letter is a therapeutic form of journaling to release upsetting thoughts in our ‘pain body’ (a term often used by Eckhart Tolle). This removes upset energy from our space, so that we not only are more capable of choosing Grace in times that really need it — we simply feel better.
with Love~
Jess
Jessica Rios
Writer + Love Coach
Founder, Making Love to Fear + Leaning into Light
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